“If you cannot say anything nice, don’t say anything at all”
This does not mean that you should let the kids in your family be rude, but rather that you should not tell your grandchildren this because it can teach them not to voice their opinions. In life, they will have to say some things that are not necessarily mean or rude, but they will not be nice to hear or say, and they should be able to do that.
This saying is also aimed mostly at girls, and it generally makes them feel like sharing their opinion is not a good idea; this will make them less likely to be ambitious and reach out for what they want, as they will be okay with taking a backseat approach to their lives.
A better thing you should tell your grandkids is to teach them that saying unkind things is not good and use them as an example. Instead of telling them not to say anything, ask them how they would feel if someone told them the same thing they said to someone else. When they understand, ask them how they could say it in a different way so it would not be rude or mean, and help them if they struggle to phrase it in a better way.
That way, you will teach them to be confident, tactful, and even assertive if they need to be, which will make them feel empowered and not afraid to share what is on their mind in a kind, respectful, and tactful way!
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I’m not familiar with ap classes, but if they provide the benefits listed, I would encourage young people to participate in such a class.
AP classes are the more difficult classes. Also, if you’re in high school, those classes make a better impression on universities when you’re applying. They really do have better information on the subject matter.
I have said all of here phrases LoL I work with adolescents (teenage boys) the last 3 are definant shares used often.
You don’t know anything about kids. If you stop and communicate with them they CAN understand what you are talking about.
I grew up hearing these comments from my parents over my childhood. My parents do not have a relationship with their grandchildren or great grandchildren, they have a disrespect for children that I grew up with and unfortunately it extends to other members of the family. My mother is very negative about many areas in life. She complains about behaviors that people do and bugs them about the behaviors that they do. Like scratching too much irate my mother or coughing too much. She can be nerve-racking to be around when she is in these moods. Unfortunately, my mother does not do anything with her great grandkids. I see the INOGEN commercials, and I think unfortunately that is not my mother.
Well, i haven’t had a mother since I was 13….stop complaining
How ignorant – anyone with common sense and respect would not use these phrases. I’m 82 and have a healthy relationship with grandkids and am always honest and straightforward, encouraging but not ridiculous. If anyone is still doing the things in this article, STOP!
Yess Nancy 💯 💯 💯 💯 💯 💯 absolutely I couldn’t agree with u more …I was just talking with my grandkids about my grandma last telling them that she prob would of scared them just by her voice if they were doing smthg they shouldn’t be LOL…but she would 🩵🩵🩵…them so so much & spoil them rotten just as she done myself & there mommy …i sure miss her dearly…she was the bestest friend ill ever have in my entire life …I love u grandma..rip 😘😘😘
I would give my life to see my only grandson 💙.
Unfortunately that will never happen. I’m pushing 75, and Haven see him since 1999. His Maternal family isn’t allowing it. Ever since his mother paralyzed my son for life. I miss him SO MUCH.
I understand…I haven’t seen my mother since I was 13
Your grandson is grown. Contact him yourself. For all you know his Maternal family may have told him you died when he was a baby. If he does not want to meet you then let it be. You could be pleasantly surprised. I would give it a try.
I Love this. These are precisely the areas I am consciously working on. I encourage my 7 grands to be kind, accepting of other’s opinions, and being kindest to your siblings, parents, and family. I regularly ask “would you speak like that to your friends? Your siblings are your first friends.”
You did n0t tell what you should not tell them you dont know your self because every body Re not the same.stop saying that.youall dont do nothing but give peoples the wrong messiage. Just tell themabout the creator .the father. Now you be Bless
All but one of them.