“If you cannot say anything nice, don’t say anything at all”
This does not mean that you should let the kids in your family be rude, but rather that you should not tell your grandchildren this because it can teach them not to voice their opinions. In life, they will have to say some things that are not necessarily mean or rude, but they will not be nice to hear or say, and they should be able to do that.
This saying is also aimed mostly at girls, and it generally makes them feel like sharing their opinion is not a good idea; this will make them less likely to be ambitious and reach out for what they want, as they will be okay with taking a backseat approach to their lives.
A better thing you should tell your grandkids is to teach them that saying unkind things is not good and use them as an example. Instead of telling them not to say anything, ask them how they would feel if someone told them the same thing they said to someone else. When they understand, ask them how they could say it in a different way so it would not be rude or mean, and help them if they struggle to phrase it in a better way.
That way, you will teach them to be confident, tactful, and even assertive if they need to be, which will make them feel empowered and not afraid to share what is on their mind in a kind, respectful, and tactful way!
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I’m not familiar with ap classes, but if they provide the benefits listed, I would encourage young people to participate in such a class.
AP classes are the more difficult classes. Also, if you’re in high school, those classes make a better impression on universities when you’re applying. They really do have better information on the subject matter.
I have said all of here phrases LoL I work with adolescents (teenage boys) the last 3 are definant shares used often.
You don’t know anything about kids. If you stop and communicate with them they CAN understand what you are talking about.
I grew up hearing these comments from my parents over my childhood. My parents do not have a relationship with their grandchildren or great grandchildren, they have a disrespect for children that I grew up with and unfortunately it extends to other members of the family. My mother is very negative about many areas in life. She complains about behaviors that people do and bugs them about the behaviors that they do. Like scratching too much irate my mother or coughing too much. She can be nerve-racking to be around when she is in these moods. Unfortunately, my mother does not do anything with her great grandkids. I see the INOGEN commercials, and I think unfortunately that is not my mother.
How ignorant – anyone with common sense and respect would not use these phrases. I’m 82 and have a healthy relationship with grandkids and am always honest and straightforward, encouraging but not ridiculous. If anyone is still doing the things in this article, STOP!