Motivate your decisions with “Because I said so!”
Another thing you should not tell your grandchildren, if possibly ever, is “Because I said so!”. While we know that they can have a million questions, and if you are in a bad mood at one point and get fed up with them, you need to remember that they are indeed children, and taking out your frustration on them is not good, even if they caused it. Not to mention, using this sentence to tell your grandchildren is the lazy way out and sets a dangerous precedent.
You are sending them a message that they do not deserve a real answer and that their questions are stupid, which in turn will make them feel stupid. You may not intend to say this when you tell your grandkids that, but they are not old enough most of the time to understand what you truly mean. They will feel devalued, which leads to them having negative feelings about you, and it can lead to them misbehaving when you are around. Kids generally use the same methods you employ, but with how they interpret them: they feel dismissed, and they will also dismiss you!
All you need to do is give them a simple answer. And if the subject is serious or more mature, you can give them the age-appropriate version without lying or making things up if it is outside your comfort level. And remember! If you do not want to tell your grandkids about something, you can always tell them to ask their parents for a full explanation.
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I’m not familiar with ap classes, but if they provide the benefits listed, I would encourage young people to participate in such a class.
AP classes are the more difficult classes. Also, if you’re in high school, those classes make a better impression on universities when you’re applying. They really do have better information on the subject matter.
I have said all of here phrases LoL I work with adolescents (teenage boys) the last 3 are definant shares used often.
You don’t know anything about kids. If you stop and communicate with them they CAN understand what you are talking about.
I grew up hearing these comments from my parents over my childhood. My parents do not have a relationship with their grandchildren or great grandchildren, they have a disrespect for children that I grew up with and unfortunately it extends to other members of the family. My mother is very negative about many areas in life. She complains about behaviors that people do and bugs them about the behaviors that they do. Like scratching too much irate my mother or coughing too much. She can be nerve-racking to be around when she is in these moods. Unfortunately, my mother does not do anything with her great grandkids. I see the INOGEN commercials, and I think unfortunately that is not my mother.
How ignorant – anyone with common sense and respect would not use these phrases. I’m 82 and have a healthy relationship with grandkids and am always honest and straightforward, encouraging but not ridiculous. If anyone is still doing the things in this article, STOP!