He’s mean to you because he likes you
This is one of those sayings that we have to leave in the past, where it belongs, and it definitely makes the list of things you should not tell your grandchildren. Think about it like this: your grandkid came to you crying that a boy on the playground or at school is either mean to her or pulling on her hair and clothes. If your first instinct is to tell her that “he likes her”, stop and think about what you are actually saying to her.
You are telling her that she should accept someone abusing her (yes, hair pulling is a form of such an action) and that she should accept it as it is. Likewise, it teaches her that if she cannot control herself, she can do as she wants as long as there are no repercussions to that action. Not to mention, it may also make her unlikely to come to you when someone is bullying her since you dismissed her feelings the first time. And many other ways of interpreting your words if you say that, so it is better to not tell your grandkids that!
Instead of saying this, you can let her know that it could be because that person wants their attention and they do not know how to ask for it, but that it is inappropriate to do it like that. That way, you can let her know that the boy may not mean any harm to her while also telling her that you understand that it hurts her and that what she feels is valid.
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I’m not familiar with ap classes, but if they provide the benefits listed, I would encourage young people to participate in such a class.
AP classes are the more difficult classes. Also, if you’re in high school, those classes make a better impression on universities when you’re applying. They really do have better information on the subject matter.
I have said all of here phrases LoL I work with adolescents (teenage boys) the last 3 are definant shares used often.
You don’t know anything about kids. If you stop and communicate with them they CAN understand what you are talking about.
I grew up hearing these comments from my parents over my childhood. My parents do not have a relationship with their grandchildren or great grandchildren, they have a disrespect for children that I grew up with and unfortunately it extends to other members of the family. My mother is very negative about many areas in life. She complains about behaviors that people do and bugs them about the behaviors that they do. Like scratching too much irate my mother or coughing too much. She can be nerve-racking to be around when she is in these moods. Unfortunately, my mother does not do anything with her great grandkids. I see the INOGEN commercials, and I think unfortunately that is not my mother.
How ignorant – anyone with common sense and respect would not use these phrases. I’m 82 and have a healthy relationship with grandkids and am always honest and straightforward, encouraging but not ridiculous. If anyone is still doing the things in this article, STOP!